Patience Oti's Blog

 What are you afraid of? ‎Is it the hate in their eyes, or the smirk upon their lips? ‎ ‎Why do you keep looking back? Are you afraid that your past may catch up with you, or that the mistakes you buried with their regrets may come knocking at your door? Perhaps you fear that others will blame your present on your past mishaps. Even if it be so, what is done is done—you need not fear the fall. ‎ ‎Did the deeds of yesterday take a part of your physical self, leaving you with a soul-drenching sense of incompleteness? Still, you must know this: what is done is done—you need not fear the fall. ‎ ‎Healing begins the moment you believe in miracles. Do you believe in miracles? You should—and here is why: ‎ ‎Miracles are not the product of your hard work. They are not born of careful deeds, intellectual planning, diligence or craft. ‎ ‎ ‎A miracle is an extraordinary and welcome event, inexplicable by natural or scientific laws, and therefore attributed to a divine agency. ‎ ‎Now, take a m...

  Walking away from what should never have held us is a miracle—one that births who we are truly meant to be. Many have walked away scarred, leaving behind stories they are neither eager to share nor willing to spotlight. These gloomy seasons are often imposed on us by the weight of culture, society, family, beliefs, and expectations. We stepped into them because we didn’t know better—or perhaps we thought our story would be different. Sometimes, we saw the end from the beginning, but we still went in anyway. While these decisions may turn out well for some, it wasn’t so for you. You didn’t understand why; you only stayed positive, doing your very best to salvage each situation as it unfolded—until you found yourself drowning, sinking, and screaming for help. Yet your cries fell into silence. Family, culture, and society either ignored you or dismissed it as normal: "We went through it, our parents did, and so did theirs before them.” So it became wired into your subconscious that...

 Finding Closure Our lives are often a potpourri of events and circumstances that shape us—defining who we are and who we are becoming. Many spend years trying to find closure from an event—or series of events—that altered their very existence. From the chaotic memories of a once "happily ever after" to the longing for a true soulmate, we all carry stories waiting to be laid to rest. It could be the slow fading of a once tightly-knit relationship, the sting of unexpected loneliness, or the crushing weight of a loved one’s passing. It may be the pain of fruitless efforts despite tireless labour, or a medical condition that rewrote every part of your world. There’s the journey of losing and regaining faith—the wilderness moments. The people we left behind, the ones who left us. The doors we closed, those shut against us, and those that never opened. The pleasant. The unpleasant. The failures that pushed us forward, and those that knocked us backward—leaving us feeling like we’r...

There is always more to what we will BECOME—the dreams in our hearts, the pain in our chests. The highs and lows. The fleeting thoughts. The disappointing and embarrassing moments. The truths we told. The parts of us that stayed hidden. The stories we shared, the ones we are proud of, and the ones we left untold. The families that shaped us—our hopes, challenges, and desperations. Our nationalities, race, and identities. The clear paths and the undefined. The special moments. The grey days and the ones spent lingering in bed. The days we couldn’t see ourselves for what we could be. The defeating, deafening silence from those we once called friends. The lies we told ourselves about who we really are. The starting over days. The years we lost. The feigned laughter, the genuine one, the fights and quarrels with self and society. The hate, envy, and pretense from others. The ones that kept us going and the ones that brought us down. The moments that hit us where it truly matters. The love,...

 BE INTENTional There is nothing absolutely wrong in  focusing on what works for you at the moment in spite of a problem in your life. Problems are wired into the world and it can be a connector to a possible future, range of emotions and possibilities you may never imagined lies within you. If your marriage is not working at the moment and your "Happy ever after" seem to be an awry of tumultuous adventure doesn't mean your life should be "suspended" or focused on that problem. While you're negotiating a possible balance with your spouse you must not leave other areas of your life unattended.  You must excel at what your true essence is, all that you were made for before you ever said "I do" Once, I was scheduled for an event when my sister suddenly passed away. It was such a cold moment being thrown into an unexpected pool of grief. At this moment I had to take on the advice of an elderly couple way back in college who once told me that though we...

 THE MIRACLE OF THE BETRAYED It is  easy to give up and give out when we have waited  so long for something or a need to be filled. It's much easier for others, to look down, despise, be repulsive of your presence and everything or anything that represents you. The audacity at which they quickly label you as lazy, visionless and one that lacks direction is outstanding.  Or, they see you as having a "spiritual problem" in the natural African  coinage. We know that people often experience grey and grave moments in their lives. Much of which is no fault of the bearer or the physically handicapped or the spiritually detained individuals.  Know, that not all things are logically and spiritually  explained. So long as earth and people exist, there will always be grey areas. There will be " almost had it all". As, well as * I came from  a long list of successful individuals, which made me automatically self- sufficient and the journey to success much eas...